In the human social circles we've been inside, there is enormous stigma against saying that you've been hurt, especially by someone who's part of the circle.
The assumption is that you've brought it on yourself. You chose to take offence. You chose to be victimized, or your choices left you susceptible to it. You now choose to play the victim, and it has to be a role that you play because no real victims exist. Not here, not in our circle, not as a result of our kind.
The second-fastest way to lose friends is to point out who they victimize.
The fastest way to lose friends is to require them to take responsibility for having hurt you. Especially if you're too hurt by them to do it in a polite way, because politeness is the social grease that's smeared over violence to mask it.