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As of a few hours ago, we evolved from "girlfriend" to "fiancée," and our Societal Acceptance increased by 2 points.

Now it's time to figure out what tabletop games to play at the wedding, and what models should be the cake toppers! We already have ours picked out, of course.

A painted metal model of a kitsune shrine maiden, wearing goggles and carrying a staff and a lantern.

Coral Leafbreak was painted by the [tumblr.com profile] kamitale studio artist.

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From its Tumblr, [tumblr.com profile] spinecrawlerrush:

An advertisement for furry art commissions.

It also drew our current avatar.

You want it to draw stuff for you. <3

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Today I read a Q&A that went something like:

Q. Is it possible for one of my fantasy harpies to be transgender when they're an all-female species? Isn't that like a human who thinks he's an elf???

A. Of course it's possible, because gender isn't the same as physical sex. Write your own fluff to explain if it makes you feel better.

This is going to sound melodramatic, but the answer that my heart was aching to hear was "who are you to tell [PLAYER] what body their character would prefer?"

Yelling, swearing, angry depressive rant. )

jewelfox: CollectQT's logo, intersecting cyan and magenta circuits which form a Q and T superimposed on each other. (CollectQT)

CollectQT is "A (Q)ueer (T)rans (Collect)ive for rebuilding your internets," according to its Twitter page. (They have a home page at collectqt.me which explains their philosophy and aggregates links, but there's no RSS feed, so at the moment you need Twitter to keep tabs on their doings.)

The project they are currently working on is Quirell, with one 'r' and two 'l's.' According to its IndieGogo fundraising page, it:

... aims to be a place for marginalized community members and others to escape the noise and over-saturation of traditional social networks. This project is needed because as users of social media, we are affected by the lack of privacy measures in place on current social networks, ‘real name’ policies, and the way that new features are implemented and security is handled within most social networking sites.

[...] we aim to deliver a platform that serves the needs of marginalized micro-communities searching for a place to call their own when mainstream social networks are overrun with hate campaigns, stress, or you simply want to connect with others like you.

Fundraising goes towards paying their queer / trans / apparently POC staff to work on it.

They "support a variety of communities, including the sex-worker community, transgender community, nonbinary community, and the MPD/DID community," the latter of which sounds like a somewhat clinical way of referring to pluralities like us but is still very encouraging. They have an open issue in their bug tracker for handling multiple personas, and their current early-stage mockup has your pronouns listed next to your name.

Why not Dreamwidth?

Dreamwidth is a wonderful CMS (Content Management System), in our opinion, which gives us a lot of control over who sees and comments on what we publish and how it looks. It is owned and largely run by women, it's free-to-use and ad-free, it supports RSS and OpenID, and it doesn't aggressively upsell its customers on "premium" services or maintain a separate tier of service for "VIPs."

It's not very easy to make it do "Tumblr-y" things or use it to post Twitter-style status updates, though, and it takes some getting used to for people who didn't grow up using LiveJournal. We feel Quirell would do a better job of addressing the needs of people like us who just want to share and communicate, while Dreamwidth's more advanced features make it ideal for RPers and prolific writers.

Sounds cool, where do I sign up?

Again, they are looking for fundraising through IndieGogo, which unlike Kickstarter will give them the funds even if they don't reach a lofty goal. The minimum donation amount is $5. If you'd like to become one of their minions (their cooler word for "allies") and have your status displayed on your Quirell page, the minimum amount is $10.

If you'd like to contribute unpaid labour instead of moneys, they have detailed instructions for helpers on their website, including non-programmer helpers I think.

If you'd like to simply poke at their code, they have instructions for doing so here. Quirell is written in Python, and has instructions for running it on Ubuntu, a free-to-download Linux-based OS which is reputed to be more accessible than others of its ilk and can be installed on a USB key without wiping your hard drive. It should be possible to get the code running on OS X or Windows too.

Hopefully, it will be live on the web soon.

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And was reminded of why I usually don't.

I'm a fan of the kind of intersectional feminism I usually see advocated on the Geek Feminism blog, even if I think it doesn't go far enough (it's annoying to hear people equate "human" with "person"). My experience with Tumblr social justice activism, though, has been much more negative.

It's not about people there being young, queer, or angry, or being whatever kind of person isn't allowed to have an opinion. It's not about being called on my privilege, either.

It's the mind-readers.

Tumblr social justice mind-readers know that you're being yourself just to upset them. Your identity is either a roleplaying character bio or proof that you "need help." You are appropriating them and their marginalized identity by being who you are, and you need to stop it right now.

This is hard for me to deal with, because it's the same kind of crap that I've gotten from my parents of origin and from religious authority figures my whole life. The person I am, they say, is unacceptable to them, is a performance I'm deliberately putting on just to offend them. I can choose to stop any time I want, and the fact that I haven't yet is proof that I'm terrible.

This really gets to me. Because deep down, I feel like the correct response is to disappear for their benefit, even if I have to kill myself to do so.

It takes a conscious effort for me to tell myself that no matter who someone is, no matter what authority they claim, and no matter what they're accusing me of, if the choice is between upsetting them and dying then I have to flip them the bird. Because that really does not come naturally for us.

Even though we're part protobird.

If our saying that upsets someone, or our using the first-person plural whenever we feel like it upsets someone, the most I can do for them is apologize for the confusion. I don't have the time or emotional resources to educate everyone who challenges me to a debate and then argues in bad faith. I'm not obligated to justify my existence to anyone.

The only obligation I feel is to explain who I am, what is important to me, and why. For my benefit, and for the benefit of anyone else who's having trouble finding the courage to be themselves.

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Let us know if any of you have Tumblrs you're okay with us following (we've lost [personal profile] redsixwing's in the transition) or if there are any we should be subscribed to regardless.

Right now we're just going to use it to follow people and maybe reblog stuff we like, but we're going to try to set up Dreamwidth cross post to Tumblr.

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  • Markdown support, because I'm falling in love with it thanks to Simplenote. (Fortunately, it got it earlier!)
  • Google Reader style reading page, with an unread count and read entries marked differently than unread ones. Also, ease of adding external feeds to it, preferably with one click on a bookmarklet or extension.
  • Clean, modern UI. LiveJournal superficially looks much nicer right now. With a little organization and modernization, Dreamwidth could keep the same features but be much more accessible to newbies.
  • Daring Fireball style "essay" posts, which are set apart somehow from others because you want to call attention to them and let your friends know "hey I'd appreciate it if you read this." (DF uses a unicode star at the start of essay titles.)
  • Tumblr style microposts, for pictures or videos or anything else, even if they have to be hosted elsewhere. Basically I want it to be easier to post stuff that isn't a long-form essay. Right now I have noplace for this, because I don't like Twitter and don't want to get sucked into Tumblr or get trolled there.
  • One-click "add to memories," with maybe a Javascript popup asking if you want to give it tags or anything.
  • Memories page done in journal style.
  • Profile page done in journal style.
  • Apps for Android, Ubuntu, and Firefox.
  • Sharks with freaking laser beams.

I put this together because we spent awhile tonight brainstorming where, exactly, we should post little things that we want to share with our friends. Right now we use Skype for that, but what we'd really like is a Daring Fireball style linkblog. Unfortunately, that'd involve WordPress, which we've wasted hours and hours and hours on -- all while happily blogging away on Dreamwidth.

So as long as Dreamwidth's our home, we might as well do some renovation maybes. Once we've got our den set up and have done some test programming with JavaScript and Firefox OS.

Also, stories. Especially interactive ones.

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What if we each had a short, freeform, intensely emotional profile, meant for the general public to read? We wrote ours as an experiment, and they turned out very differently from each other, which I guess is to be expected.

Claire's )

Taryn's )

Claire wants me to add that she's not planning to set y'all on fire anytime soon. We were both trying to channel our deepest hopes and insecurities for this.
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So I'm trying to create a completely new identity here, and I'm pretty sure I want Dreamwidth to be the core of it. I love this site and its community, and it's less hassle to deal with just Dreamwidth than to set up a WordPress site and cross-post. Plus this way the comments are all in one place.

I'm looking at other sites and services too, though ... and IM accounts, and things. Trying to think where I want to have accounts, and where I kinda don't. I'm thinking through this out loud in case anyone wants to help me, or has any suggestions.

Read more... )

A-nywho, I'm open to suggestions for what other sites and web services I should be looking at. >.>b And / or any comments on the ones I mentioned.

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