Have you ever had a conversation that went like this?
You: When you did this, that, and the other thing, it hurt me in these ways. I am upset at you for hurting me, and afraid that you'll hurt me again.
Them: *sobs* How can you say such mean things? ; ;
You may not have known it, but your conversational partner was equipped with the Narc-Filter 2000™! A patented invention by Narcissists, Inc., the Narc-Filter 2000™ turns intelligible thought:
You: When you did this, it hurt me.
... into hateful, meaningless gibberish!
You: RARGHLE BLARGLE BLAH! FUCK YOU!!!1!
This not only lets you keep on doing thoughtless deeds, saying bigoted words, and being an all-around asshole. It also helps you feel good about doing it! You'll love it when the community rallies around you, shares in your misery, and feeds you that sweet N-supply. Just tell them how mean that uppity *CENSOR BLEEP* was to you, and then drink it all in through your crocodile tears.
This message was brought to you by jewelfox's latest misguided attempt to communicate with her parents. See Issendai.com for more about why this was a bad idea.