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Posted by [twitter.com profile] farwz on Twitter:

tbh being apolitical is a privilege. some people can't ignore politics bcs politics attack their identity on a daily basis

My existence is apparently the subject of heated political (and theological) debate. As is my right to exist.

Perhaps unfortunately, for people who have decided to be my opponents, I intend to go on existing. And talking about what I go through.

Maybe we can just be friends instead? Playing tabletop games is a lot more fun than arguing. Especially when the whole substance of your argument is "you can't be real, because if you are I would need to rethink my life."

Date: 2016-06-18 07:44 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alatefeline
*applause* Thank you for posting this. "Being apolitical is a privilege" is an important message.

Date: 2016-06-19 08:06 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alatefeline
There is a difference between minimizing unnecessary drama, and failing to show up to necessary conflicts - the logical result of the latter is living in a completely self-centered mirror-image world, and wondering why it sucks. I'd rather have some fruitful conflicts and some strategies for resolving them with kindness and compassion, thanks. A hard and fast "no-drama rule" is the kind of theory that people come up with while still trying to navigate their social universe without acknowledging gray areas, and I remember being there, and I'm kind of glad I've grown a bit since then.

On a different note, I pretty much loathe most interpersonal agonizing and want to take a big sword to the knot of contingent, mutually incompatible, possible responses people sometimes contemplate. But there is a difference between acknowledging that I am a terrible person to get interpersonal advice and thoughtful attention from vs. delegitimizing other people's need to process in that way, which I try not to do. I think that it might look the same from the outside sometimes when I flee other people's dramatic interactions, but it is different from the inside and I think I usually do manage to say something to that effect. Whether people understand me or not ... I don't know.

Oh, and then there's the part where the conflicts I do show up to and want to help resolve, with people I know well and really care about, I don't necessarily manage to actually fix, because they are all dang complicated. And then I start looking at my younger self and thinking that person had a point about "why bother with people" and then I'm like, no, no, I like having people in my life, and I like *having* a life, usually.

Date: 2016-06-19 08:09 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alatefeline
Oh, I also supposedly don't exist, for different reasons. Hi. Our universe - the one with all the flavors of personhood people try to ignore - is better and more interesting and we have cookies. And tabletop gaming, sometimes.

Date: 2016-06-22 07:42 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redsixwing
Hear HEAR.

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